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This is graphical guidelines to disable MySite or My Links link in a portal.
A. Open Central Admin , and click on SSP which serve My Site.
B. In the SSP Management page, click on “Personalization services permissions” 
C. Select the users/group, and click “Modify Permission of Selected Users”
D. To remove "My Site” links, uncheck “Create personal site” , and to remove “My Links” link, uncheck “Use personal features” , and click OK. 
E. After you’ve saved the modification, the user will no longer see the links. 
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